I am sure anyone with more than one kid understands the frustration with the fighting and arguing. The other day I was awoken by 2 children running to the bathroom and fighting about who got there first and, "how stupid" it was that the other one got there first. Not a good way to start the day....:(
This is my first attempt to use a visual aid to gauge the proper behavior. I have no idea how it will go, and I know it sort of is using bribery.........but then, I do feel that if the kids are truly trying to show kindness to one another- then I do want to reward that and recognize it and encourage it.
We have 2 systems in place- the first one is a little vase with 3 Popsicle sticks in it for each child. If I hear ugly words, I take out a stick for that child. If they lose all 3 sticks in a day, there will be consequences for that. If they keep all of their sticks for at least 4 days of the week, they get a prize.
Then there is the cup of kindness. When I catch an act of kindness, I move one of the dots into the cup. When the cup is filled, we will have a class party.
Along with this I have added liberal doses of prayer as well as regular Bible reading for their little hearts. And our current favorite verse:
Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29I would love any feedback and your examples of how you have dealt with the fighting and arguing among siblings.