We had a baby shower last Saturday for a friend at church. Another friend gave a little talk- advice to the new mom-to-be. It was so encouraging and convicting! Thanks Carmela, for sharing your wisdom with us. The part that really got me was to use scripture when talking to your children. Instead of harping or nagging about this and that- to read scripture that will cut to the heart of your child- The Word has power!!!!
That reminds me of a chart that Mom Mincy got for me: Wise Words for Moms by Ginger Plowman.
It has a list of behaviors--questions to ask your child--a verse of reproof--a verse of encouragement--and additional verses for that behavior. For example, lets pick one that I need to use daily for my kids:
Aggravating, stirring up strife
Heart Probing: (questions to ask them)
1. Are you purposing in your heart to promote peace, or are you stirring up trouble?
2. How can you show love and pursue peace in this situation?
One of the seven things God hates is one who stirs up trouble among his brothers. Proverbs 6:19
God gives joy to those who promote peace. Proverbs 12:20
I am so inspired and convicted to memorize these verses- and to remember to open the Bible and lovingly read these verses to the kids when they are having trouble obeying. I think the key here is to make this a positive time to get in the Word and share with your children the answers to life's problems. We don't want to hit them over the head with it. I can just picture myself on a bad day yelling the verses--- :( and this would defeat the purpose. But I really feel like when we take the time to sit with our kids and pray with them and share scripture, that these "moments" can turn into positive teaching moments instead of times of anger and frustration for all.
I just sound like I have it all together, right?!?!? I DO NOT! And Dave is laughing as he reads this now, I can imagine, because he knows that half of the time I react in a negative way when the kids are fighting! I get as mad as they are.
God can help us in those moments- help us to remember how to respond-- in LOVE! (I would think that if we renew our minds daily in these verses, that we would be quicker to respond in the right way instead of the wrong). And Carmela's point was not just to use scripture in the times of discipline, but in times when your child is asking questions- like what if your child came to you and said that she wanted to go to the mission field- your answer could be..."go and be strong and of good courage...be not afraid for the Lord will be with you!!!" (now that is a good answer!)
I am going to start memorizing these verses. Anyone want to join me? You can get one of these charts from Amazon for $4.00.
I love my kids- I am so blessed- they are sweet and precious. I don't want their only memories of their mom to be of a crazy lady running around the house yelling at them!