But I have my days too- I love my job, I love my lot in life- but I have my days when I NEED to get out of the house- when the kids drive me crazy.
BUT-----I have learned a few little secrets to making the stay at home job even better. The secret for me is to first of all get up before the kids in the morning. I have heard it SO MANY TIMES --"well my kid gets up at 6:30- there is no way that I can get up before him". After having 3 kids (now I am the expert- haha!) I have learned to make the kid go back to bed- let them read in bed- let them play in bed- teach them to tell time when they get to be about 4 1/2 - tell them they can get out of bed at a set time.
Set your alarm- get up- read the Bible, pray, drink some coffee- get a shower- put on some clothes besides sweats or PJ's. This has changed the way that staying at home has been for me. I am cheerful, I am happy, I feel clean and decent, I feel like I want to see the kids and that our day can begin. So many times I hear the-
"we stay in Pj's until noon and the house looks a mess and the kids wake me up and I get grumpy and try to get them to sleep in the bed with me for a few more minutes and I cannot take a shower and the whole day is awful."
Please- try it with me for a few days and see how you feel about life.
get up earlier than the kids
set your alarm
OR ---this has been a big one for me. Have your husband set the timer before he leaves for his run in the morning and put the timer in the bathroom. So when the timer rings I have to get up- go into the bathroom- and turn it off. Then I want so desperately to get back in bed (this is 6:30 am) but realize that it will be just as painful to get up the second time around and I may as well stay up and I will be so much happier if I do.
Also, throw some exercise into the mix. I feel 100% better when I exercise. I have more energy- I can stay up later. Even just 15 min. of exercise can help.
Then lastly, there are going to be plenty days that you just do not feel like cleaning, or watching the kids, or teaching the kids, or cooking supper, or getting out of bed. We all feel like that. But here is the real challenge- the real test- TRUE love is doing those things when we don't feel like it. True love for God and true love for your family. I have such a long way to go on this one. I like to complain or snap at the kids, or just plain not do the cleaning. When we turn to the Bible for our encouragement, and when we ask God to help us- and when we get up early and do what we can to think about others first- you know what?!?!? Those are the good days- those are the days where we say- this is what God gave made me to do.
So I guess this is still Sara being selfish and saying that when we strive to think of others and do for others and give and work for others- really that just makes us feel better and makes us happy. I can't win for trying :) But hey, I believe that God blesses us even when our attitude might not be 100% what it should be but when we try. We need to try and He will work through us.
I don't know what got me going on my soapbox (there are plenty more of these posts, here and here and here and here and here and here). I guess it is a little pep talk for myself as I get ready to start homeschooling the kids. There will be days when we think we will NEVER get it all done- but if you can say that you loved your family and nurtured your children and talked to them about our great God- then I call that success!
OK, now I remember what got me going on this soapbox. I read a blog comment by a mom (somewhere- don't remember where) where she was saying that staying home with your kids is so boring and awful, etc. And I wanted to tell her all of this and that when you spend time with your kids it is never wasted time and that if you are someone who stays at home and you feel awful, then there are some things to try (one being just spend time talking with your kids and read to them and take them places) and you will not regret it.
What do you think? Do you have a different routine that works for you? How do you get through the day??
**I keep thinking of more things to say!
Nap time and quiet time has saved my sanity! Even the 7 year old has to be in his room for 2 hours in the afternoon - reading, crafting, playing, listening to music - whatever he wants as long as he does it quietly. (we all need down time)
p.s. scheduled time alone such as my Monday night painting times have helped out a lot too. Thanks to Dave for taking care of the kids and letting me be by myself then and also other times for me to get out with friends, etc. (me, me- it's all about me.....hopefully, me wanting to be all about them, them, them!!)