Tuesday, May 12, 2009

wisdom for parenting

Denise shared her devotional with me from Anita's shower. I love these scripture verses and would like to make up a pack of cards or something to display and be able to remind us on a daily basis. Denise has 5 kids. The oldest is 16 ? and the youngest is 9ish...they are sweet kids who (seem to me) well adjusted and good kids who care about God. The oldest girl (15) babysits our kids often and she has learned many of these things that Denise talks about in the following devotion. She is a great example to my kids.

Every good and every perfect gift is from above. James 1:17

(here I deleted some things where she was telling Anita how we are so excited for them...etc. so this verse did apply here. And Anita is having a girl, so that is why much is relating to daughters.)

The world would like our daughters to be distracted by it’s idea of beauty, to be consumed with self and to fail to serve Jesus. I would like to challenge you to begin to prepare for the days ahead when you will battle this influence. That you will be prepared to share the truth of God’s word and explain what He sees as beautiful.

Proverbs 31:30 says Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.

It is the Lord we seek to please. As mothers, we need to pass that desire on to our daughters. The most precious gift that you can pass on to your girls is a relationship with the Lord Jesus. We are very blessed to have such a solid church that seeks to teach our children about Jesus. BUT, that is only a tool we should us to support what we do in the home. The truths of God’s word need to be passed on by the parents.

And these words, which I command you today shall be in your hearts. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down and when you rise up. Deut. 6:6&7

Give your daughters the gift of conversation. Talk with them about God as you live your daily life. Help them to see that He is in everything and wants to be a part of their entire life. When you walk with them, teach them about the Creator. When they are hurting, teach them about the Great Physician. When they do wrong, teach them about the Forgiver. Seek opportunities to share God and His love often.

Many times our little ones find bedtime to be a time when they bare their hearts and seek to have these deep conversations. I remember being tempted to rush them to “lights out”. I was tired from a long day and just wanted quiet. But, then I would have missed many opportunities to share the truth of God’s love with them. A couple of my kids chose these night-time talks to get saved. Be ready to talk even when it goes against your plan.

Your word have I hidden in my heart, that I might not sin against you. Psalm 119:11

Give your daughters the gift of God’s word. Memorizing scripture together will provide them with a lifetime of encouragement and guidance. Begin while they are young. It is so much easier for these little sponges to memorize large amounts of scripture than these older ones. The Lord will call these verses back to their minds over and over again. While they are young, use verses that will help them to remember to live for Jesus today. Challenge their little hearts to obey, to be kind, to have a happy heart, to seek forgiveness, and to trust Him.

For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7

None of us expect our daughters to wake up one day, let’s say at the age of 16, and BE godly. That is not something that happens because we pray all sorts of spiritual things for them as they grow. It happens because we realize while they are young that there is work to be done. God wants them to be more like Jesus everyday. I would often remind my little people that THEIR actions were very important to God. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:16 What they did and said could bring God honor. Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Ephesians 6:1 Their obedience would show their love for Jesus because it is right in His sight. Whenever I am afraid, I will trust in You. Psalm 56:3 Their choice to trust Him with their fear would show their faith. A soft answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1 The way they talk to each other would show their desire to keep peace and please God. In everything give thanks. 1 Thess. 5:18 Their choice to be thankful for all things show that they understand that He knows what is best for them. Our daughters will enjoy looking pretty and having pretty things, but we need to help them to understand that God is looking at their character. He sees past what we see and desires a beautiful heart. A heart that has a love for what is right in His sight.

And let us not grow weary in well doing, for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. Galatians 6:9

God promises that our work will not be in vain. And it is work. But, if we trust Him and rest on His strength, He will give the increase. We will reap IF we FAINT NOT. What will we reap? Daughters who will have the gifts they need to prepare them to become women who fear the Lord. Women who will be beautiful in God’s eyes. We will be praying for you as you continue the work so that you may reap.


I seriously love this outline. In a nutshell there are all sorts of good things that we need to be sharing with our kids everyday!


Monica said...

Thanks for posting it Sara! My mind got sidetracked at the beginning while Denise was talking about the Biblical concept of beauty and the world's concept and missed out on a paragraph or two. While Denise was totally focusing on parenting, I felt like she hit some very important points that were relevant to me, too!

lori vliegen said...

beautiful Scriptures...and i love your idea of making them into a set of cards! :)

gypsy@Hebrews11:13 said...

copying this out right now! Thanks, Denise, for sharing your godly, wise words with us!

Keri said...

This is wonderful. Thanks so much for sharing it, Sara.